About Nefretiri Abat — J.D., PMHNP-BC

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PMHNP-BC · J.D. · Founder, Exxceed Wellness

Nefretiri Abat

She / Her · J.D., PMHNP-BC, R.N., BSN

I help highly-ambitious people stop being held back by the beliefs ADHD, anxiety, and depression have built around them.

We don’t start with what’s wrong with you. We start with what happened to you. Twenty years on the inpatient floor taught me that’s the only place real change begins.

Editorial portrait of Nefretiri Abat, J.D., PMHNP-BC, Founder of Exxceed Wellness
2004 20+ years on the
inpatient hospital floor
PMHNP-BC Certified Juris Doctor (J.D.) CA NP License #95024411 Telehealth Statewide Spravato & TMS Provider Inpatient RN Since 2004
How I Practice

Why my care looks different.

My care is harm-reduction, trauma-informed, and unapologetically non-judgmental. Practically, that means we don’t start with what’s wrong with you. We start with what happened to you — and we keep going until we find the beliefs that have been doing the holding.

Twenty years inside inpatient hospitals taught me what most providers never get the time to see: people get medicated faster than they get heard. Treatment plans built on diagnosis codes instead of life stories. I built Exxceed Wellness around the conversation that should have happened years ago.

What I Treat

Care matched to your problem — not a one-size protocol.

Every patient walks in with a different shape of struggle. Treatment plans should reflect that.

Primary Specialty

ADHD — Therapy for the Highly-Ambitious Individual

You don’t need to be told you’re “smart, you just need to focus.” I work with adults, adolescents, and children whose ADHD has been called everything except what it actually is — a neurodivergent operating system that needs to be honored, not punished.

  • Same-day appointments often available
  • Telepsychiatry · all ages, statewide California
  • Medication management with active stimulant-shortage pharmacy support
  • Comprehensive ADHD assessment
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Mood & Anxiety

Depression & Anxiety

Including treatment-resistant cases. When the standard medications haven’t worked, we have advanced options — Spravato (esketamine) and TMS therapy — alongside the conversation that should have happened years ago.

Spravato & TMS
Co-Occurring Care

OCD & Substance Use

Harm-reduction model with dual-diagnosis expertise. We treat the whole picture — because the OCD and the substance use are usually telling the same story from two different angles.

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Telehealth

Telehealth Statewide California

Secure, HIPAA-compliant platform. Same-day availability for established patients. From Eureka to El Centro — wherever you live in California, the appointment is on your schedule.

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In-Person

Advanced In-Office Treatments

Sunnyvale · Hayward · Stockton. Spravato in-office under REMS protocol. TMS therapy by appointment. The newest tools, delivered with the oldest commitment — sit with the person in front of you.

TMS therapy
My Clinical Philosophy

Care that starts with who you are, not what’s wrong with you.

Harm reduction first. I meet patients where they are, not where the system expects them to be. That isn’t softness — it’s the only honest starting point for change. Real progress begins when we stop pretending the patient should already be somewhere else.

Trauma-informed by design. Every diagnosis exists inside a life history. I read both. The DSM tells me what symptoms look like; you tell me what they cost you. The treatment plan is built on the second conversation.

Non-judgmental, always. The care I render is always client-centered and non-judgmental. That isn’t a marketing line — it’s the operating principle of every session, especially the hard ones.

I believe in the power of influence. Showing up on YouTube, Instagram, Pinterest, Facebook, and LinkedIn isn’t a side project — it’s the same work as the clinic, in a different room. I never underestimate the influence I have on others. — Nefretiri Abat
Education & Credentials

Twenty years of training, two degrees that don’t usually meet.

For the patient who needs to verify before they can trust. Read in any order — but start with the J.D.

  1. Bachelor’s · UST Manila

    Bachelor of Science in Nursing

    University of Santo Tomas, Manila — one of the oldest existing universities in Asia, founded 1611.

  2. Doctorate & Practice · 2002–2004

    Juris Doctor — and Almost Three Years Practicing Law

    J.D. from University of Santo Tomas Faculty of Civil Law, followed by nearly three years of active legal practice in the Philippines (2002–2004).

    The law degree isn’t decorative. I practiced — argued, interrogated, drafted, advocated — for almost three years before I returned to the bedside. That training taught me to read systems, scrutinize what’s written, and notice what isn’t. I bring the same rigor to every treatment plan.
  3. 2004–2017 · 13 Years

    Medical Inpatient Hospital Nursing

    The return to nursing — full-time, as a career. Thirteen years on inpatient medical floors learning how the body breaks down, how families show up under pressure, and how the diagnosis is almost never the whole story.

  4. 2017 · Specialization

    Specialized Into Psychiatric Nursing

    Inpatient psychiatric care across adolescent, acute adult, geriatric med-psych, and psychiatric intensive care units. The work that became Exxceed Wellness started here.

  5. Master’s · Walden University

    MSN, Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner

    Master of Science in Nursing — PMHNP track. Licensed to diagnose, prescribe, and provide psychotherapy in California.

  6. Board Certification · ANCC

    PMHNP-BC

    American Nurses Credentialing Center board certification — Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner across the lifespan.

  7. State License · California

    California Nurse Practitioner License #95024411

    Active. Authorized to evaluate, diagnose, treat, and prescribe across all 58 California counties via telehealth.

  8. Advanced Certification

    Spravato® REMS Certified

    Trained and certified under the Risk Evaluation and Mitigation Strategy program for esketamine treatment of treatment-resistant depression.

  9. Advanced Training

    TMS Clinical Training

    Trained in Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation — non-invasive depression treatment for patients who haven’t responded to antidepressants.

  10. Founder

    Founded Exxceed Wellness

    Bay Area, California. Three locations: Sunnyvale, Hayward, Stockton. Telehealth statewide. Same mission: care that meets the whole person.

From My Patients · Verified Zocdoc Reviews

The reviews that mean the most.

Verbatim from my Zocdoc profile. Read every review there.

“After 30 years of frustration — not being believed, heard, or helped — I have new hope. Nefretiri was absolutely a dream come true. For all the other doctors who said ‘I can’t,’ she was actually excited. Her entire theme was ‘I CAN.’ It would take an act of God to ever leave.”

Lauren B. · Verified patient Zocdoc · Video visit · Aug 2025

“I was going through a difficult time after losing both of my parents, which led to depression, loss of motivation, and having to leave school. I didn’t realize how badly I was struggling until I found Nurse Practitioner Nefretiri. She made it easy to open up, treated me with compassion and respect, and helped me discover I had ADHD — which explained many of my challenges. With her support, I was able to return to school, earn my degree, and regain control of my life.”

Lawrence S. · Verified patient Zocdoc · Video visit

“NP Nef and her support team have been amazing. On top of helping me move forward with a life-changing mental health diagnosis, NP Nef came up with a great combination of meds that helped me focus — while stabilizing my blood pressure with no intolerable side effects. My PCP had sent me to a cardiologist who was so pleased with my BP readings he cleared me for one year. If you want top-of-the-line care, excellent communication, and someone who will empower you while treating you with respect and compassion — look no further.”

KT Zocdoc · Verified patient

You don’t have to figure this out alone.

Whether you’re newly seeking support or you’ve been searching for the right provider for years — a same-day appointment may be available. Let’s start with a conversation.

Sunnyvale 100 S Murphy Ave, Ste 200
PMB 4044
Sunnyvale, CA 94086
(408) 290-9440
Hayward 21297 Foothill Blvd
Ste. 203
Hayward, CA 94541
(510) 255-1544
Stockton 4750 Quail Lakes Dr
 
Stockton, CA 95207
(415) 636-9700
Clinic appointments Mon–Fri 10 AM – 8 PM By appointment only
Admin & online inquiries Mon–Fri 7 AM – 8 PM Sat 9 AM – 5 PM
Telehealth available statewide across California